As I listen to my husband talk on the phone to his sponsor, I think about how far we have come in the last six months.
I don’t hear all of their conversation. I don’t need to. I know that having someone to talk to is an important part of his recovery.
Addiction is a disease. It affects 8% percent of the population aged 12 years old or older. (According to https://ncadd.org/for-the-media/alcohol-a-drug-information) We have been Attending a family education group for over twelve weeks now and I can say that I have learned a lot.
Seeing my husband put into action some of the skills that he learned in his recovery program makes me think maybe I should learn them too. Knowing that stress triggers him to want to use, he uses meditation and and tries to avoid conflicts as much as possible. Seeing how he steps back now when an argument could escalate. He takes a moment, then comes back calmly and explains his reasoning. I automatically calm down as well.
He tells me when I over stimulate him with my fast talking, gung ho, lets do this attitude. He is slower to get started on things and needs time to process. I’m learning to respect the boundaries he sets when he says “I’m on board, but you are overwhelming me with ideas.”
Seeing him respond in a low, slow calm tone with our four year old tells me that I need deep breaths. I get frustrated and fly off the handle way too easy.
I’m learning from him as he learns the steps to recovery. After all the entire family is now involved in the process. Over 120 days sober. “Just for Today” has become a motto that we live by.