Have you heard the phrase “Sticks and stones might break my bones, but words will never hurt me”? Why do we say that? It is so not true. Words hurt. Words can be painful. Has anyone every said anything to you that rocked you to the core?
Why is it that we hold on to the hurtful words more than the helpful words?
When my ex husband told me just because he didn’t want to be married to me anymore does not mean he ever wanted me dead, I did not feel safe. That conversation rocked me to the core. Why would he ever bring it up if he never thought about it?
When I was told that because I got pregnant before we got married, we lost our salvation. I was hurt. How does he know? Does he know that our child is an answer to prayer? A prayer I prayed for five years after I was told I would not be able to conceive a child. Salvation lost? I think not.
After being told you are not welcome at someone’s home would you go back? Even if their spouse was the one who keeps inviting you?
When I was called the B word, you know the one that ends in “itch”, I first was hurt. Then I realized she was a bully trying to cause a scene and wanting a reaction. My reaction was..This is not the first time I’ve been called that and won’t be the last.
I could go on and on, but I’m not going to sit here and list all of the hurtful things that have been said to me.
24 Kind words are like honey — sweet to the taste and good for your health. Proverbs 16:24 (GNB)
When I am told that I am a good mom, it makes me feel warm.
When I was told that I make good decisions, I felt validated.
When I was told that standing up for myself does not make me the B word. I felt powerful.
When my husband told me that he could not imagine being with anyone else after being with me. It made my past disappear. I stopped thinking about my ex and all the hurtful things he said to me.
The way we talk to each other is important. What you say affects your relationships. It can be either for good or not which will you chose?